It's probably a good thing I retired from my journalism career when I was 23 (did you know I used to work for network news? another blog perhaps...) because my skin isn't nearly thick enough to handle that. Truthfully, it's a lot thicker than I thought.
Last week's blog on PPD got over 2000 views the few hours and I received countless messages from women around the world who thanked me for the post and shared their own struggles (one even suggested I sponsor the post so that even more women would see it -- I did, though I'm not sure if that did any good because I don't really understand Facebook stats). Anyway, it was an amazing response, and further supported my point: that so many more new mothers are suffering than ever let on in public.
As with anything that goes slightly viral, however, there were haters out there. Either my medication is working times ten or I'm just not bothered by idiots anymore because, for the most part, I found the haters amusing -- especially because they were pretty much all posted by anonymous men.* (and not on my blog, but on some other weird forum)
I know the new first rule of internet journalism is "never read the comments" (but again, I retired from journalism years ago), but I couldn't resist being a voyeur on a message board people with men who called me a "punk-ass bitch" and a "whiny woman," all the while talking about "period parties" and how the writer (me!) should "shut her mouth and do her job, no?" Part of me wanted to respond to every jab individually, especially those who assumed that I lead some privileged life or don't work. Instead, I took some deep breaths, giggled, and looked away, resisting every urge to defend myself or troll around. It's not worth it.
Still, we wonder why so many women are quiet about PPD...
In retrospect, it's not really a laughing matter.
* I also got plenty of messages of support from men, so I know it's not that simple.
Tuesday, June 18, 2013
Haters and that PPD blog: Never read the comments!
Posted by Brigid Kaelin
I'm a Kentucky singer-songwriter, mom to a 3-year-old and a baby, car-free, vegetarian-type who likes traveling, interesting facts, castles, novels, funny people, swimming, home-birth, science, eating and writing. I haven't slept through the night in, like, 4 years, so I'm kinda wacky these days. I write about traveling with kiddos, baking, and how to balance self-employment and artistry with parenting.